“Don’t forget that you need outside support, too.  Lean on your friends now, just as they lean on you in their times of trouble.  Don’t hesitate to ask them for the time and support you and your daughter need.”

Bone-Deep Love

“When I began writing Our Last Best Shot, I had an inclination to minimize the significance of parents in the lives of adolescents and to emphasize the importance of other adults.  But the kids I interviewed kept leading me right back to their families.  One day I listened to a girl rant about her mother for more than an hour, and then I watched her run straight into her mom’s arms for a hug as soon as she returned home.  Despite appearances to the contrary, our daughters’ love for us is bone-deep.  Even in the hardest times, that love can lift us up.”

Interview by Madeena Spray Nolan

Resources

Unexpected Legacy of Divorce, The: A 25 Year Landmark Study by Judith Wallerstein (Hyperion, 2000).  The final in a series that follows children of divorce into adulthood.

The Courage To Be a Single Mother: Becoming Whole Again After Divorce by Sheila Ellison (HarperSanFrancisco, 2000). An insightful account of the stages we go through during and after a divorce.

Help! A Girl's Guide to Divorce and Stepfamilies by Nancy Holyoke (Pleasant Company, 1999). Questions from preteen girls and loving advice from the ediors of American Girl.

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